Thursday 20 January 2011


I've always had a problem asking for money in any form, whether it is outright asking my family to borrow me some money or putting a figure on the services I render. With regards to the latter I have ALWAYS undercut myself.

I have always found it totally impossible to say exactly how much I want to be paid. Well I had a break through today! I was letting someone know how much I would charge for the particular service he wanted. As I was writing the message, I toyed with the idea of putting a lesser amount or offering a two for the price of one service to make the price seem more reasonable. I had already done my research on the matter and knew that what I was charging was correct, but I struggled to do it.

I had just listened to a teaching about the power of the mind and how our thoughts direct our actions. The speaker was saying that if I wanted 2011 to be different from 2010, I would need to change the way I think and the way I see things. I reasoned that I was worth what I was asking; I wasn't scamming the guy at all. "You've got to change the way you see yourself, if you don't see your own worth or believe you worth what you are asking, then you're not going to get very far," I chided myself. So I plucked up my courage and quoted the price that I had in mind. The client then said "wow, that's really reasonable!" Wooooooooooweeeeeeeeee! What a massive breakthrough! I'm so stoked! Here's hoping this is the start of a major turnaround in the area of finances for me!

Sunday 16 January 2011


Greetings! Things are starting to move along now. After what seemed like a lot of pinging backwards and forwards with my first article for Suite 101 it has finally been published. It is the first time I have written publicly about some of the things that I encountered in a church I used to attend. I hope people who read it find it useful; hopefully it will play a part in my finally being able to lay the whole thing to rest once and for all.

Remember the guy who I spoke about regarding creating a blog? Well I gave him suggestions and he loved them so it is all systems go! Woo hoo!

Not bad for sixteen days into the New Year!

Thursday 13 January 2011

Here's hoping!

It's interesting how conversations can lead to something beneficial. I was talking to someone I know on line yesterday when they quite pointedly started to ask me about my working situation. As I don't know this person very well, their questioning came across as a bit rude. They wanted to know my educational background, what position I was in now, whether I was satisfied with the money I was making, if not why did I not return to my former incarnation as a PA, etc. On the PA issue, I explained that as I absolutely hated being a PA I would no longer be returning to that field; I wanted to make my living as a writer. Our conversation then went like this:

Him: You should write a blog.
Me: I already do.
Him: Blogging can be a good way of generating new business leads. I know of someone who has got thousands of dollars worth of new business from doing this.
Me: Yes I know. I blogged for a few companies before, but there was the issue of being paid once the recession really kicked in, especially if they were small businesses.
Him: I should do a blog
Me: Why don't you write one then?
Him: I'm no good at writing and research...but you could do it for me.
Me: Yes, I guess I could!
Him: Great! Here is the site of my competitor. Have a look at it and see what you think.
Me: Will do! I will go through it and then draft a list of questions for you to answer as to what you want for your site!
Him: Excellent! Oh, by the way, how much do you charge?
By this time my business brain was fully awake!
Me: Once you let me know the level of input and work you want me to undertake, I will let you know
Him: Great, speak to you soon!

Not a bad result for a Wednesday afternoon! I was hoping for new doors of opportunity to open for me this year and here's one! Will keep you posted on how it all goes!

Thursday 6 January 2011

Ok, I'm listening now!

Hi there! How are you all doing so far this New Year?

I started back at work yesterday - man was it hard to get up so early after a week and a half of getting up at noon! It is grey, cold and raining right now but I'm determined to hang onto my new attitude of not letting these little things bug me!

I'm not a huge fan of New Year's resolutions, but something happened today which caused me to make one exception; I'm going to start listening to the voice within more.

I had an appointment today at 9.10am a short distance from my house. I prepared the paperwork for it and headed out the door in good time. As I was locking the front door, I felt impressed that I should go back inside and get my laptop so that I could go straight from my appointment to the library. I thought about doing so but then decided not to as my laptop is quite heavy. I decided to go for my appointment, return home and then pick up my laptop. With that settled, I headed off.

It was only when I got to my appointment I realised that an important document was missing. I had finished it this morning and I needed it for my appointment. Even though I live nearby, it was too late to go back home and retrieve it. All of a sudden it dawned on me; had I gone back inside to get my laptop, I would have seen this document as it was in the vicinity of my laptop and realised that I had mistakenly left it behind. Fortunately when I explained what had happened, the person I was meeting was gracious about it and everything went well despite the missing documentation.

This has happened to me a lot over the years - I get a sense to do or not do something and I do the opposite thing with negative results. Well, I'm putting it on record - the voice within will get much more of my attention from now on!

Saturday 1 January 2011

Embracing 2011!

Happy New Year to you all! I didn't make any resolutions for the simple reason that they only last about 15 minutes! I have set myself a few goals though which I will keep to myself for now, but one of the main things I've been looking at is how my mindset determines the direction of my life.

I'm sure you've heard a number of catch phrases about the power of belief, quite possibly without realising the full significance of the statements that were made. "Think positive", "believe it and you will achieve it", "if you think something bad will happen it will", "it's mind over matter," "be determined", etc, etc. I've heard things like this and more over the years. I used to dismiss these statements as being those of New Agers and others who had a penchant for hugging trees and rocks in the New Forest!

But there is a lot of truth in these sayings. One of the first statements I ever heard along these lines was from the bible: "...For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7. Simply put, we are what we think.

I have a very clear example from my own life about this truth. I am very tall, and growing up I absolutely hated it. I hated people staring at me and all of the comments that went with those stares. I can still tell when someone is referring to my height in another language! Whenever I had to go out somewhere, before I had even set foot outside, my heart would race with anxiety as I imagined people staring and laughing at me. More often than not this is exactly what happened. I would never visit crowded places; I would seldom go to parties or weddings unless I absolutely had to go. I just didn't want to be seen; sometimes I would spend days without going outside. If I had to go to the High Street, I would take the routes which ensured minimal contact with other people.

Then one day, after an experience which changed my concept of my height, I decided not to focus on people's reactions and attitudes to my height any more. I made a choice to embrace who I was, enjoy my height, go where I pleased and not bother about people's foolishness. You know what? The number of unpleasant incidents dropped from happening every day to hardly ever happening at all. What had changed? I hadn't moved to another country or another part of the City; people hadn't changed, but my mind had. I had always walked tall, but now my confidence and my attitude walked tall too! People are always commenting on how amazing and pleasant it is to see someone who isn't ashamed of their height and who doesn't try and disguise it with a stoop. All I did was change my mindset and the results became evident to all.

I was thinking about this quite a bit yesterday; what would happen if I changed my mind in other areas of my life where I want things to be different? At times I can be quite defeatist when things don't happen the way I want them to first time round or as quickly as I would like and so I give up, but what if approached each challenge or obstacle with the belief that they could be overcome? What if I actually started to believe that I can be a writer of note and take steps in that direction, rather than comparing myself to others and telling myself that I don't measure up? What if I approached everything with the belief that I can, I will, I am good enough, nothing is out of my reach and nothing is impossible for me? What would my life look like with this approach? Well, if the results from my change in attitude about my height are anything to go by, my life would be pretty amazing!

One of the things I purposed today was that I want my life from now on to be an adventure. I'm challenging myself to strap myself firmly into my seat on this roller coaster ride that is my life, throw my hands up in the air and, as I take all the dips, turns and loops that are unique to my life, I want to embrace every element of what lies in store for me with a positive outlook. Yes, unpleasant things may happen along the way, but I won't let setbacks alter my course anymore. I choose to enjoy my life and become who I am destined to be in the process. Life was always supposed to be an incredible, exhilarating journey. It still can be. But because for a while my view was obscured by my concerns about how I looked and how people treated me, I totally lost sight of how fantastic it is to be alive!

Life in the Tall Lane just got a lot more fun! Here's to 2011 being the greatest year of my life so far!